Lies.

Some psychologists argue that people lie for the race of deceiving one another. The thrill of getting away with a lie, without being detected. This idea of self deception has evolved as a means of navigating the minefield of deceiving others. Some studies show that people lie 2.65 times per day. Although this may seem low, it shows that people misinform people, and tell a lie, avoid the truth or make something new up almost 3 times a day.

If lying is so evident in our daily lives, than how does anyone differ between the truth and a lie?

Admit it. We have all lied. We lied when our friend asked us if she looked nice, and we were all desperate to say she looked tacky. We lied when our employer asked us if we are hung over and we shake our head in denial. We lie to protect. We lie to avoid. Lying is part of our everyday lives. So can we really trust anyone? Trust is such a grey word that has no real meaning. The truth can be anything we want it to be. The truth can be manipulated so easily with a change of a word.

When it comes to relationships, how good are trust, truth and honesty? Is lying the best way forward, as the truth can be seen a selfish act to intentionally hurt someone. Lying can sometimes protect the person we are with.

We live in a world of lies. Nothing is true anymore, people lie, teachers lie, parents lie, adverts lie, TV programs lie, politicians lie, the news sometimes lies.

Where can we find the true source of anything?

The question is, can anyone tell the truth. Denying feelings is another form of lying. My recent boy asked me if I liked him the other day, and I said no. Do I? My inability to have feelings is perfectly clear, but was that two letter word ‘no’ a lie in itself? Do I like him? Or am I lying to protect myself from being hurt. What would happen if I said the truth, he would have heard what he wanted and probably stopped seeing me. Some people are scared of the truth, although we may think so desperately we want to hear something, the truth isn’t always what we want.

Maybe we would all be happy if we could live with lies. But being human beings, we feel the need to go out of way the gain the truth, gain the inside source, find the meaning.

The turning point of lying, the concept of lying and the interest into the theory behind lying came from my last relationship.

I got told a lie most days. I never even knew. It fascinates me how easily people can lie, and once you’re in a relationship with a liar, its effects take control over you. Soon I was the one lying, the one being able to manipulate, and soon our relationship became a game of who could get away with more and he could have the upper hand. I would ask him if he slept with someone and he would just say no, not a flicker, not a flinch, no blinking, no blushing, nothing. I used to look for some sign, some little movement that showed he was lying, but I got nothing. Soon, I was the one being questioned, and I used to stare at him so deep in the eye and just say no. Just lie. Without feeling, without worry. How could I be so heartless I used to think to myself? But then, he was doing the same, whilst I thought I had the upper hand sneaking around with his best friend, he was doing the exact same with mine. Funny how things work like that.

The point I make with lying.

We can all get away with it.

Maybe lying is healthy.

We all want to live a lie, but don’t know how to do it without feeling morally incorrect. Lying has become a part of us, in one way or another, even if it involves lying to ourselves.

So why stop now?

Your Secret Addict x